Home Sweet Home: Got a little Christopher Lowell inside you just dying to get out, or was your application for “Trading Spaces’ rejected? Don’t worry, you can still have home decorating and remodeling fun. Just head down to the San Diego Convention Center all weekend for the Home Decorating and Remodeling Show, where you can get ideas for that new gourmet kitchen or bathroom with a Jacuzzi tub. Trust us, don’t take any advice from Bobby Trendy if he is there.

Blow out the candles: The Asian Pacific Islander Community AIDS Project (APICAP) marks its 10th anniversary with a gala on Saturday, Sept. 20, at the Wyndham Emerald Plaza Hotel (400 West Broadway, downtown). APICAP is a non-profit organization dedicated to securing justice for and protection of rights of Asian/Pacific Islanders living with HIV. A silent auction begins at 6:30 p.m., followed by dinner at 7:30 p.m. The formal event includes a night of entertainment by performer Jocelyn Enriquez and local talent Armi Guzman. APICAP will be honoring Dr. Sana Loue, Jeffery Tom and Dr. Linda Lloyd at the gala dinner. Tax-deductible tickets are $150 per person, with proceeds benefiting APICAP. For more information, call Jess San Roque at (619) 229-2822.

Debbie Reynolds: Okay, what can you say about Debbie Reynolds that hasn’t already been said. She stared with Gene Kelly in Singin’ in the Rain and was a regular in Vegas in the ’80s. We loved her in In & Out and now she plays Grace’s meddling mom on “Will & Grace.” She’s done it all, and after half a century performing her live show she’s still going strong. Catch her on stage at the California Center for the Arts in Escondido on Saturday, Sept. 20, starting at 8:00 p.m. For tickets or information, call (800) 988-4253.

Big Family BBQ: San Diego Family matters will host a Big Family BBQ from 11:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m. at Trolley Park, located on Adams Ave. in Normal Heights. The event is open to the entire family and to those with or without children. There will be an old-fashioned family barbeque with great food, games and entertainment for the whole family, including potato sack races, a water balloon toss, face painting and a diaper derby for the babies. Visit www.gaylesbiantimes.com for a link to the Family Matters website and fill out the registration form. Reserve your space now. The cost is $10 per person. Payment is accepted in advance or at the event. For more information, call (619) 298-5431.

Paula Poundstone Living Out Loud: Living Out Loud, Stepping Stone’s annual gala fundraiser, will be held on Sunday, Sept. 21 at the El Cortez, starting at 5:00 p.m. This year’s Living Out Loud special guest will be comedienne Paula Poundstone, who will explore her own “off-kilter” worldview and experience on the topics of relationships, recovery and sex. There will also be a special VIP reception starting at 4:00 p.m. Catering will be provided by Terra Restaurant and Urban Grind, and there will be a silent auction fundraiser. For information or tickets, contact Stepping Stone at (619) 584-4010, ext.108.

Bye Bye Q: Say goodbye to Qualcomm Stadium with the Padres as they face arch rivals the Los Angeles Dodgers in their second to last home stand of the season. Sure, they may not be going to the playoffs, but here’s your last chance to see them in action at “The Q” before they move downtown to Petco Park. Tickets are still available. Call (619) 641-3100 for more information.

The Bitches Brew: Love women? Love comics? Love women stand-up comics? Christian Shrim has put together a whole gaggle of female comics to entertain the masses. Talents from San Diego to Los Angeles will be on hand for The Bitches Brew, an all out yuk fest to be held at the 6th@Penn Theater tonight starting at 8:00 p.m. Be sure to get your tickets before they are sold out — they are only $10 and can be reserved by calling (619) 688-9210.

Brass Fiesta: The award winning Westwind Brass ensemble kicks off its fifth year of San Diego’s only Brass Chamber Music Recital Series. Bill Yeager, a marvelous studio/jazz trombonist, and Frank Glasson, an internationally renowned trumpet soloist, will be joining the ensemble this year. The 2003-2004 concert season gets started tonight at 7:00 p.m. in Balboa Park at the San Diego Museum of Art. For more information, call (619) 337-2848.

Move over Madonna: Niki Haris has been in the shadows for the last 16 years, singing background for the one and only Madonna. This lady with a five-octave voice is finally stepping out and working with the likes of Junior Vasquez and Jellybean. She already has such dance floor hits as “What’s it Gonna Be,” “Do You Love as Good as You Look,” and “Dance Floor.” Where else would she be performing but at Bourbon Street’s big 16th anniversary party? Happy Birthday Bourbon Street, and Niki Haris, you go girl!

The Siren’s song: Siren: An Open Mic Night for Women is drawing in the crowds at David’s Coffee House. A fair amount of music, poetry, prose, comedy and activism is thrown into the showcase of female creativity. Siren takes place every other Thursday on the back patio of David’s Coffee House in Hillcrest (3766 5th Ave) and it’s never too late to get involved. The show runs from 8:00 to 11:00 p.m. with signups starting at 7:30 p.m. Admission is free and the coffee is as hot as the entertainment. For more information, visit www.gaylesbiantimes.com for contact information.