“Straight people, they’re not so interested in us. They really aren’t. And part of it is that to them gay equals a sexual act. The other part of the problem is gay equals not them, therefore not interested. I find this with my extremely enlightened straight friends, they still don’t quite have a handle on the best reason for legalizing gay marriage, which is those thousand civil rights that just automatically transfer with a heterosexual marriage license from state to state. It takes some explaining to them to show how ludicrous it is to set up a crazy quilt America where some states have gay marriage and some states don’t, because if I get married and then by some misfortune move back home to Oklahoma, my rights don’t come with me.”

“Despite having a very well-funded and well-organized campaign (in Maine), the main lesson in what we need to do differently is we need to figure out how we best counter the right wing’s lies. Because they will lie about what will happen in schools, they will lie about how this will impact children and lie about what domestic partnership does and doesn’t do.”

“I don’t (see myself as a lesbian role model). I don’t, I don’t. Because it took me so long and it was such a complicated process for me, first off, to come to terms with who and what I am.”