Help! I’ve been out of a relationship for more than three years. I’m a little apprehensive about dating but ready to get out there and meet some people! My past experiences have led me to dead end relationships and the occasional bar hook ups. I want to meet a great guy, but don’t know where to start. How can I find eligible guys in the city?

Hi John,

Congratulations on feeling ready to get back in the game! It’s normal to feel apprehensive about dating when you’ve been single for quite some time. To be honest, we’ve had many members who were in your shoes once! Unfortunately, dating is about trial and error. Although quality singles are everywhere, so are the wrong types of guys. You may meet the right person but it leads nowhere or it may seem right at first but not so much in the end.

I’ll offer you some words of wisdom I’ve given our members here at Nuera Network. First, I encourage you to make a list of qualities that are important to you in a partner – think in terms of goals, values and lifestyles. To give you an idea, here are a few things we screen our members for: Is financial stability important? Are you looking for a long term commitment? Are you emotionally ready? Once you know these answers, you’ll have a better idea of the type of person you want to meet.

Second, stay true to yourself. I mean that in every way! Don’t compromise who you are, what makes you happy or your values for the sake of having a relationship. Remember that successful and healthy relationships are based on the happiness of both people.

Lastly be realistic. Finding the right partner doesn’t happen overnight, it takes time and effort. So take advantage of opportunities to meet other singles. Use your resources: friends, family, co-workers or special events i.e. Valentine’s Day. Many people during this time are in search of meeting quality singles like you. Or be adventurous and try a service that can do the leg work for you. There are sites that offer a plethora of singles online or a service like Nuera Network, where members are screened in person to ensure quality, security and confidentiality.

I hope my points will help you find the partner you’ve been looking for. Remember that there are many ways of meeting quality singles who are serious about long term commitment. Just be true to yourself, your values and have fun!

Good luck!

Dennis Richardson,

Nuera Network