Wow! I believe in strength through foriveness and turn the other cheek....but your article actually made me spit up a little in the back of my mouth.

"shaming Him"?? How in heaven's name could anyone bring more shame on him than he brought on himself? Now that his hypocrisy has been forced into the open he is beating his chest and crying about how terrible his fear was? I don't want to hear his excuses and I certainly don't want to hear some apologist making them for him. Forgive him? It isn't a question of forgiveness it is a question of community. He shouldn't expect to be welcomed with open arms or be named Grand Marshall of the next Pride Parade. He has shown no allegiance to his community so why should the community show any to him? It is rediculous to think he can beat his chest and rend his garments and now all is well.

As for your apalling analogies. While Eva Kor forgave the Nazi's I am sure she wouldn't be excited to sit down to dinner with Mengele. The opposite of hate is not love it is indifference. The Amish in your article while laudibly forgiving the gunman would have sought justice had he lived. While he lived they certainly wanted him to stop his actions causing pain to their community. That is what I want from this guy. The Amish do have a great example we might follow a wonderful practice you might have heard of called Shunning.

All I have ever heard from this guy is how this has affected him. His pain. His difficulty. Until he recognizes how his actions have affected the community and works to move forward defending it then he should not be surprised that the community doesn't want anything to do with him. He is not part of us just because of his attraction to men. He will be part of us when he is actually part of us.

Dear Editor,

This has to be the all time worst Editorial you have ever published in the History of the Gay & Lesbian Times.

Please understand I am not against forgiveness, but this is an insult to what this act of “redemption” is all about.

The only reason this person is sorry is because he got caught and is forced to publicly admit the truth. Otherwise it would be business as usual.

I do not trust this person and I do not apologize for how I feel, PERIOD!

Wade is a bitter man who feels betrayed.

Well, why shouldn’t he not be when he chooses to engage in group identity politics? Do most straight guys feel betrayed when they find out the guy they’ve been voting for many times comes publicly out of the closet? Of course they don’t. They don’t because most of these voters have other issues that are more important than whom the one they helped get elected sleeps with.

Simply put, always judging others based on group identity is asking for disappointment. Should I reject a candidate for office because he likes eating meat and I’m a vegetarian? Or maybe he’s against labor unions and I’m in one? Or because he owns a rifle and I’m in favor of gun control? Let’s stop being drones and start thinking as individuals with minds of our own. Trust in myself and my own reasoning rather than running with the herb.