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They gave birth to a film… and now they have a baby
Published Thursday, 05-May-2005 in issue 906
When most kids ask their parents, “Where did I come from?” they hear some version of the stork story.
Kathy Hines and Becky Burklee’s stork story goes something like this: “We gave birth to a documentary… and then we adopted you.”
The two local lesbian filmmakers are the producers of Creating a Place at the Table, a documentary profiling three San Diego multicultural lesbian families.
Partners in film and in life, Becky and Kathy had been talking about having a child when they started filming Creating a Place at the Table. In fact, Kathy teased Becky about making the film, saying, “I didn’t want to end up pregnant at the end of the film!”
Neither of them ended up pregnant. But they had caught the “motherhood bug.”
Like many lesbian couples, Kathy and Becky had talked about the “kid question” for many years – even before they were a couple. Back when they were “just friends,” Kathy would often say, “I could never be with Becky because she wants to have kids.”
Becky, who grew up in a large Mormon family, had always wanted children – lots of them. Kathy, on the other hand, hadn’t had much experience with children until she became part of Becky’s family and became an aunt to her 14 nieces and nephew, and until she started working on Creating A Place at the Table.
“I thought, ‘OK, we can do our research through the documentary,’” Kathy says. “And after doing extensive interviews with these women and seeing how things went for them, I thought, ‘We could do this.’”
So one year after the San Diego world premiere of Creating a Place at the Table, Kathy and Becky became the proud adoptive mothers of a baby girl.
“She is really the joy of our lives,” Becky says. “And you know, it really does take a village to raise a child. The families we met through the documentary have become our village.”
Jenny and Ava gave the new moms a crib and all their preemie clothes. (Ava, profiled in the documentary, gave birth to baby Sophea six weeks early. Becky and Kathy’s baby girl was born four weeks early.) Luisa and Stephanie showed up at their house within days of their new arrival and taught them how to wrap the baby in a reboso, a traditional Mexican shawl.
The shawl wrap has come in handy for the filmmakers’ travels. Ever on the go, the two filmmakers take their baby girl to community meetings, and are planning to bring her with them as they hit the film festival circuit with Creating a Place at the Table.
“We just love motherhood, and now I can’t imagine not being a mom, and we are ready for more.” Kathy says.
“And we love making films,” adds Becky. “It’s a wonderful creative mix.”
Creating a Placeat the Table will screen in June at Frameline29, San Francisco International Lesbian & Gay Film Festival, the world’s oldest and largest celebration of GLBT cinema. Watch for the documentary at local film festivals in the coming year. You can link to their Web site by visiting this article at www.gaylesbiantimes.com .
Leng Loh is the executive producer of Creating a Place at the Table, and works as a producer at KPBS public television.
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