We were sitting in an editorial meeting for a sex makeover TV show I co-host. Frustration was high. The problem: How to show a husband oral sex techniques on TV without it looking like a scene from “Spouses Gone Wild: Doggie Style.”

I sat silent throughout the debate. As a gay man, I didn’t feel I had much to offer on the subject. Still, the director turned to me and asked what I thought. “Listen,” I said, “the last time I helped a woman get off, she was on a bus.”

We eventually solved that question. My co-host took the husband to an ice cream parlor and licked a cone ’til it cried out for more. But that wasn’t the only question that came up, particularly from the British press (the show originated in the U.K). Though the show got great reviews and stellar ratings, many reviewers asked a simple but fair question: What can a gay guy teach heterosexual couples about sex?

The answer lies in the special kinship between women and gay men. We share the same desires but not for the same men. Well, unless you count Jude Law, Brad Pitt, Ashton Kutcher, Johnny Depp, Leonardo DiCaprio, George Clooney, Hugh Grant, the entire French national rugby team and, wait, where was I? Oh, never mind. The point is we complement women, but hardly ever compete with them.

My sexuality didn’t just bring a unique point of view to the show, it set up a natural trust and confidence that allowed me to do things a straight man would have had a harder time doing. Let’s face it, when a man shows a woman sexual techniques it can look a little unsettling, a little predatory. My sexuality helped overcome that. As an added bonus, the guys never got jealous when I was alone with their women.

None of the couples in the show gave a rat’s arse that I was gay. The only thing they cared about was straightening out their love life, and if it took a gay guy to do it then so be it.

Only once did I feel completely out of my element. One day the director ran out of time and couldn’t let my co-host (internationally best-selling author on sex and relationships Tracey Cox) do a crucial scene with a boyfriend on cunnilingus. That meant that I, queer as a three-horned steer, had to show the boyfriend an oral sex technique called “Rock around the Clock.” Basically, it entails picturing the vagina as a clock and your tongue as the hands on the clock. If you hit a certain time period, say three o’clock, and you get a moan, a groan or send her into the ozone, then you’ve found the hot zone.

I looked at the director and said, “You must be kidding. You want me to do WHAT?!”

Tracey coached me through it. “Get the information right,” she said. “Say it with confidence and it’ll go like, well, clock-work.”

So I did. I grabbed a big clock and, with the cameras running, coached a straight man on something I’ve never done.

I kept waiting for the boyfriend to point out the absurdity of being taught cunnilingus by a man who thinks “vulva” is a Swedish car, but he never did. This proved one of three things: He was an idiot, I was a better liar than I thought, or he was so mesmerized by the message that he forgot about the messenger.

It was clearly the third thing. A truth is a truth no matter who says it. A technique is a technique no matter who the technician is. A problem is a problem no matter who suffers from it.

Take the most common problem we dealt with in the show – “desire discrepancy,” or mismatched libidos. That’s when you’re hot to trot and your partner’s not, or vice versa.

Desire discrepancy causes enormous pain for couples. The high-desire person feels rejected and abandoned. The low-desire partner feels pressured and harassed. Both harbor suspicions the other is going to leave. One woman who felt her sexual desire for her boyfriend virtually disappear asked, “Does this mean I’m not in love with him anymore?”

Heart-wrenching scenes like that aren’t gay or straight; they’re human.

As the show migrates from England to America, it’ll be interesting to see public reaction. The “Queer Eye” guys proved gays could show America how to pick the right bed sheets. Maybe this program will prove we can show them what to do once you’re in them.