“Love is transcendent and fulfilling and powerful and any force on earth that endeavors to make you feel that you should be ashamed for feeling genuine, deep love for another of your choosing is a form of oppression. Thomas Jefferson said, ‘I have sworn on the altar of God, eternal hostility to every form of tyranny over the mind of man.’ Any force that tries to make you feel shame for being who you are, and loving who you love, is a form of tyranny over your mind. And it must be rejected, resisted and defeated.”

“When it comes to sex, whether it’s paying for it, or being beaten, or weed on, or doing it in groups, or doing it in saunas, we make no judgments about the effects on our health, emotional or mental, or the effects on our ability to make moral judgments in the world. If you question the depths and extremes of some kinds of sexual behaviour, you run the risk of being told, as I was by the owner of the sauna I interviewed … that you’re not really gay: ‘a straight man in a gay man’s body’ were his exact words.”

“The whole gay liberation movement was really centered on sexual freedom, but I think when AIDS came around, that went out the window, and what remained was the desire to be a couple. Once people became highly invested, almost out of necessity, in the idea of being a couple – and being a faithful couple – then they realized they didn’t have the same rights other couples had, which irritated them, with good reason. … I thought, ‘Oh c’mon, this is all these gay guys trying to be straight people – it hasn’t worked for them, why should it work for us.’ But then, rather quickly, I changed my tune, because I realized that if such a large part of straight society so violently opposes the idea of gay marriage and gay adoption, then it can’t be all bad.”