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Published Thursday, 23-Nov-2006 in issue 987

“I am sure Nicole enjoys going to lunches and partys with politicians, but this should not be done at the expense to the fight for equal rights.”

Dear Editor:

As usual there is much in Nicoles column to take issue with but I wanted to make one point.

Our “National Nightmare will never be over as long as the political activists and self appointed mouthpiece for our community make ignorant and absolutely foolish, no stupid statements like we should stop fighting for marriage equality and accept gay unions.

HE/She then states that this is not putting our rights on the back burner, to that I say bull.

Regarding the nightmare being over, nothing is going to change.

The democrats elected are more conservative, and in two years nothing will be different except by then Nicole may be advocating not fighting for the right to adopt or to have consensual sex among same sex partners.

There will never be a time to stop fighting for same sex marriage.

For Gods sake, if the likes of Britney Spears can marry and divorce with no meaning to the vow, why should I and my husband have not had the right to marry?

I am sure Nicole enjoys going to lunches and partys with politicians, but this should not be done at the expense to the fight for equal rights. Gay unions instead of marriage quality sounds dangerously close to separate but equal.

My life partner and long term companion and should I dare say husband in every sense of the word but legality died 5 months ago.

All Michael wanted of life in addition to living the life we were living was the equal right to get married and proclaim our love and commitment to the world and have it recognized by the state as a marriage every bit as valid and binding and loving as any marriage.

In going through the motions of closing his affairs I learned all of the intricate differences from being a domestic partner and a husband.

It may be a hard fight, It will be a hard fight but we should never give up and never be willing to say or hear our leaders say that we should no longer fight for equal rights and marriage equality. God only knows when this fight will be won and I know in my heart that God recognizes the love I feel and shared with my husband and that in heaven we will be together as a married husband and husband, not as two men united under a gay union.

Shame on you Nicole.

Dennis E Mayer, M.D.

“The underlying message that Mr. Kimmel expressed was one of self acceptance which I could not agree more. I just wished it allowed for more choices, not just gay or straight.”

Dear Editor:

I have been a big fan of Michael Kimmel’s column for quite sometime. His advice is both caring and pragmatic. However I believe that the response to the November 9th letter “I want a mans body with a woman’s personality” may send the wrong signal to people that are struggling to deal with their bisexuality.

It was conveyed that the feelings of frustration created by a dual attraction came only from internalized homophobia. Nothing was said about the possibility of being bisexual with physical attracttions on one plane and emotional on another as eloquently described by Dr. Fritz Klein in the grid he developed that carries his name. “Bisexual Option (Haworth Press)”.

There are many bisexuals that have integrated the whole spectrum of attraction into their lives. The underlying message that Mr. Kimmel expressed was one of self acceptance which I could not agree more. I just wished it allowed for more choices, not just gay or straight.

Carlos Legazpi

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